Hello, I’m Amanda. My journey began 23 years ago when I founded Hair to Ware, a haven for individuals dealing with hair loss in Ware, Hertfordshire. My own encounter with Alopecia Totalis at 14 deeply ingrained in me the complexities and emotional nuances of hair loss.
I wish to share insights and advice on compassionately supporting loved ones undergoing this often misunderstood challenge, drawing from a wealth of personal and professional experiences.
The Reality of Wig Wearing
We understand that it can be difficult to find the right words to comfort someone who is dealing with a loss. In the case of some illnesses and medical treatments, hair loss is inevitable – but it doesn’t make it any easier to cope with. Hair loss can be crushing and result in profound mental and emotional pain that others simply cannot comprehend.
This means that we must be tactful with our words, carefully considering how they may be perceived by someone dealing with this deeply personal issue.
The following are comments that we’ve heard in our salon. We hope that by highlighting these, you can avoid any insensitive remarks that may make someone feel uncomfortable or distressed.
- Common Misconception: “Wearing a wig must be convenient, saving you from daily hair styling.”
Deeper Insight: The reality is that wigs demand significant care. They need to be washed, styled, and maintained regularly, much like natural hair. This process can be time-consuming and requires a level of commitment often unseen by others.
- Misplaced Encouragement: “Go for a completely different look. Go mega glam! If you can’t now, when can you?”
Empathetic Insight: In the face of hair loss, many find solace in maintaining their familiar appearance. It’s a way of preserving a sense of normalcy and identity during a period that feels anything but normal.
- Casual Suggestion: “Have you thought about a pink wig? It could be fun!”
Thoughtful Perspective: Choosing a hair colour isn’t just about aesthetics; it’s about feeling comfortable and true to oneself. For many, natural hair colours offer a connection to their identity, which is especially important during a time of significant change.
- Common Understatement: “It’s only hair.”
Compassionate Acknowledgment: The loss of hair can be a deeply personal and distressing experience. It’s not just about losing hair but about the profound emotional impact it has on one’s sense of self and normality.
- Seemingly Supportive Comment: “I might just shave my hair off and wear a wig”
Nuanced Clarification: Deciding to wear a wig, often a consequence of medical treatments like chemotherapy, is a profound and personal decision. It’s a way to exercise control in a situation where one often feels powerless.
- Insensitive Remark: “At least you’re not dying!” (Often said to our alopecia clients.)
Sensitive Approach: Each person’s journey with hair loss, like alopecia, is unique. Comparing it to other health conditions diminishes their personal struggle. Empathy means acknowledging each journey as distinct and challenging in its own right.
- Well-Intentioned Advice: “Have you tried this new treatment or remedy?”
Gentle Reminder: It’s important to respect the decisions and treatment plans your loved one has chosen, often in consultation with healthcare professionals. Unsolicited advice, however well-meaning, can sometimes feel overwhelming or dismissive of their current approach.
Fostering Understanding When Dealing with Hair Loss
The old adage that you can’t understand a person’s situation until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes holds true in this case. Each person’s journey with hair loss – no matter the cause – is unique and difficult.
Our gentle team at Hair to Ware, our mission extends beyond hair loss solutions; it’s about nurturing a supportive community where individuals can share their experiences and feel understood. Let’s embrace the journey together, offering our love, understanding, and support, making this challenging path a shared experience filled with compassion and empathy.
